If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. ~ Dalai Lama
Compassion. Everybody wants it. Everybody needs it. But it seems in short supply, often when we need it the most. We can be unaware that we aren’t open to giving or receiving compassion – a human tendency is to withdraw and harden when we have been hurt. Somewhere in the darkest spaces of our primordial brain, this seems like the natural way to deal with trauma, pain, loss, heartache. However, it’s only in opening up our hearts during these experiences, rather than closing them down, do we find the compassion within ourselves to grow and shed layers of ourselves that no longer serve us.
When someone is suffering, in yoga we encourage that person to consider the possibility that this current challenge is present in their lives as an opportunity to learn – about themselves, the world around them, the nature of existence. We stroll, climb, crawl and collapse onto the mat or meditation cushion to learn more about how to meet those challenges, and through our teacher’s guidance, learn to dissolve those harsh attitudes towards ourselves – our bodies, our minds, our thoughts. It’s only through firm determination and commitment to honestly look at everything – warts and all – do we find the deepest well of compassion.
A great exercise to start developing your Karuna or compassion muscle is the following meditation:
1. Take a comfortable seat and settle into noticing your breath.
2. Let all outside concerns beyond your breath melt away, just for this small period of time. Know that whatever is truly important will come back after you are done meditating.
3. Once you feel settled in your space, and you can focus on your breath, practice noticing your inhales and exhales for a time. Follow the path of the breath from the instant it enters your nasal passages and starts to fill the lungs until your lungs are full. Then follow the breath back out again. Repeat.
4. Once you have followed the breath for a time, bring into your awareness a feeling of compassion. Compassion feels warm, comforting, secure and loving – bright energy filling you up with light and happiness. Sit with this feeling for a time, until you feel completely full of this energy.
5. Then bring to mind someone whom evokes deep compassion within you. Allow the light of your compassion to extend to them freely, sharing in this immense, deep well of feeling with them.
6. Sit and meditate for a time on this sharing of deep, full compassion.
7. Now bring to mind someone who does not evoke any compassion at all within you. In fact, they might evoke anger, hositility, jealousy or some other negative emotion. Do your best just to witness these feelings and not get caught up in them.
8. Now come back to that feeling of bright and light that is compassion, and fold that person who does not immediately evoke compassion for you into that light, and offer that light to them freely. Sit and observe your reaction for a time.
9. Now let all thought go and focus back on the breath. Sit again for a time and observe the reactions of your mental/physical/emotional body without trying to change them.
10. Relax effort in the meditation. Rest in the feeling of bright and light compassion until you are ready to be done with the meditation.
True compassion does not come from wanting to help out those less fortunate than ourselves but from realizing our kinship with all beings. ~ Pema Chodron

The author, Anna Ferguson, is a yoga teacher, artist, photographer and writer. She teaches weekly classes at Asheville Yoga Center and other studios in Asheville, NC. Find out more about her at ushasyoga.com.
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